Arcturus Descending
Mr List also thought John Donne’s meditation was a great touch and how it “speaks to/points out” the inter-connectedness of humans. It is great how one thing can remind us of another as in the case of the snippet from Martin Niemoller.
Intimate conversation and social chit chat are two types of conversation that are always taking place somewhere in the world. It is likely that I am speaking of the personal desire to talk and as well the social desires to talk in my own context here - I was not being specific and what I wrote possibly contains some imprecision. I will however elaborate a little to add a little more precision:
A personal desire could be Independence which is the desire for self-reliance but sometimes we might like others to see us as such, in which case it is probably a social desire. Tranquility could be considered personal and is the desire for emotional calm. To connect and to be taken seriously would be two social desires; we want to feel connected to others, and we want others to take us seriously and to show us respect; we want to be listened to and to have our words considered for their merits rather than being discounted or ignored.
As you are more or less saying, shared beliefs can create a really strong social order and may be highly beneficial or highly detrimental for what ever reason. Further I am saying that with social acceptance we develop these new desires that are collective and sit next to our very own desires; what I mean here is that social desires need to be developed and strengthened for the social creature in question to keep them strong because as is often the case the said social creature is seeking a strong social bond as well as strong social order.
I think the skeptic is also looking for the truth in an around about way. The ability to question the validity of the arguments of others id est what other people are saying, I think is quite healthy. The only reason why we ask questions is because we do not know the answers; this can be further sub-categorized into extending the only reason into something like - it sounds close to the truth but I remain skeptical because it just does not sound quite right and in-turn I still do not completely have the truth. In any case what we desire is our own made-up version of the truth to fit in with our beliefs and desires as you say.
My estimation is . . . that it indeed . . . shows a good thing . . . a wise and intelligent thing . . . when: we find something that makes sense to us, we tend to lend it some belief - any institution is just a case of what makes the most sense to the most people. When we are not happy with any given institution that has become a big part of us we tend to look for answers elsewhere. This plays into the hand of skepticism and as long as an individual is careful then the grass can be verified as greener on the other side of the fence, figuratively speaking.
We are indeed social creatures and our social desires are not our own, they are interconnected as you suggest; our desire to talk can be both our own and social. We desire to talk because we are basically all social creatures, interconnected with one another and it is through the talking, the sharing, that we sometimes come to know this for the first time; that you come to know this for the first time; that I come to know this for the first time. Hopefully this makes things a little clearer.
Again, No Man is an Island.
An overproduction of reality is when reality becomes overwhelming and sometimes our logic and emotions wreak havoc here. When that time happens we do need down time or quiet time, potentially a long walk alone; ALONE TIME and being sure to take all of the bats out of the belfry so to speak.
QUIETING OF THE MIND time.
Socially speaking when all is OK then the white flag is raised and when all is not OK then the battle flag is raised. Talking or yelling what ever the case may be becomes the medium to help each person ascertain their social state - sometimes we need profound sharing other times we need to put the amour on and go to battle(rant and rave).
There are plainly questions that are socially acceptable to ask and those which are not; as you say some people are more open and some people are more reserved and private - you wont really know if you ask a question and you don’t get an answer - I would not let it bother you.
If we do not offer answers when asked questions then our ability “to relate to others” becomes diminished; I am saying especially in the case of a forum that if you do not answer a question that was asked of you then the person who asked the question in the first place may not bother asking any further questions of you - and may not even bother adding any more input where you are concerned - this is mostly the case when you do not know them personally.
We should consider when others agree or disagree with us, whether that should bother us or not.
I affirm that we should know when to . . . let it go . . . as it could be for our very own benefit.
Are there some questions in life . . . that by searching for the answer . . . can make you lose your mind?