Would you date someone with a disability?

[tentative]

Maia,

Would this thread have gone a different direction if you had asked would you date someone with different ability? Being without sight has certain limitations, but all of our senses have limitations - and they aren’t considered disabilities. I have had acquaintance with a number of sightless people and while they are without sight, they have compensatory ways of coping that allow them to function quite nicely. For instance, I’d be willing to bet that you have an acute sense of hearing. You hear much of what other people miss or ignore and this ability informs you about your immediate environment. I’d guess that your sense of smell, taste, and touch are also highly developed and together they give you a a good picture of the world. In short, being without sight creates limitations, but also heightened awareness to the information you receive from your other senses. You aren’t dis-abled, you’re differently abled.

I have found that what we call disabled rarely is. So for those who are capable of looking past their own limitations, to date or not is simply finding that little something that attracts one to another.

A story: I had a blind friend who because of an accident was also confined to a wheelchair. Pretty bleak, huh? You’d have to call this person disabled. And yet, a couple times a month I’d load him up in my car and we would set off to whatever destination he chose. It was our mini-road trip. Once we arrived at whatever the destination, I would do commentary on the "visual "picture as far as I could. It was then his turn to tell me everything he was experiencing. When we were done with the game, it was obvious that he sensed far more than anything I could describe visually. He delighted in pointing out my “blindness” and would keep at it till I threatened to push him over a cliff or out in the middle of a four lane highway… We both had a great time and I always came away with admiration for his acute sensitivity to the world. I never could see him as disabled. He was just abled differently.

[Maia]

@tentative

Maia,

Would this thread have gone a different direction if you had asked would you date someone with different ability? Being without sight has certain limitations, but all of our senses have limitations - and they aren’t considered disabilities. I have had acquaintance with a number of sightless people and while they are without sight, they have compensatory ways of coping that allow them to function quite nicely. For instance, I’d be willing to bet that you have an acute sense of hearing. You hear much of what other people miss or ignore and this ability informs you about your immediate environment. I’d guess that your sense of smell, taste, and touch are also highly developed and together they give you a a good picture of the world. In short, being without sight creates limitations, but also heightened awareness to the information you receive from your other senses. You aren’t dis-abled, you’re differently abled.

I have found that what we call disabled rarely is. So for those who are capable of looking past their own limitations, to date or not is simply finding that little something that attracts one to another.

Actually, I don’t like refering to myself as “differently abled”, “disabled” or anything like that. I was just using the most commonly recognised term. I think these phrases are too often used as blanket labels and are therefore virtually meaningless.

For me, the only appropriate word is “blind”, which it’s definitely ok to say in front of blind people, by the way, rather than “without sight” (lol).

[tentative]

@Maia

@tentative

Maia,

Would this thread have gone a different direction if you had asked would you date someone with different ability? Being without sight has certain limitations, but all of our senses have limitations - and they aren’t considered disabilities. I have had acquaintance with a number of sightless people and while they are without sight, they have compensatory ways of coping that allow them to function quite nicely. For instance, I’d be willing to bet that you have an acute sense of hearing. You hear much of what other people miss or ignore and this ability informs you about your immediate environment. I’d guess that your sense of smell, taste, and touch are also highly developed and together they give you a a good picture of the world. In short, being without sight creates limitations, but also heightened awareness to the information you receive from your other senses. You aren’t dis-abled, you’re differently abled.

I have found that what we call disabled rarely is. So for those who are capable of looking past their own limitations, to date or not is simply finding that little something that attracts one to another.

Actually, I don’t like refering to myself as “differently abled”, “disabled” or anything like that. I was just using the most commonly recognised term. I think these phrases are too often used as blanket labels and are therefore virtually meaningless.

For me, the only appropriate word is “blind”, which it’s definitely ok to say in front of blind people, by the way, rather than “without sight” (lol).

Actually, even though I addressed my post to you, it really was aimed at others. But I suspected you would know that. My use of the term “without sight” was just a PC way of trying to damp the banal crass blind jokes and jabs.

[Maia]

@tentative

@Maia

@tentative

Maia,

Would this thread have gone a different direction if you had asked would you date someone with different ability? Being without sight has certain limitations, but all of our senses have limitations - and they aren’t considered disabilities. I have had acquaintance with a number of sightless people and while they are without sight, they have compensatory ways of coping that allow them to function quite nicely. For instance, I’d be willing to bet that you have an acute sense of hearing. You hear much of what other people miss or ignore and this ability informs you about your immediate environment. I’d guess that your sense of smell, taste, and touch are also highly developed and together they give you a a good picture of the world. In short, being without sight creates limitations, but also heightened awareness to the information you receive from your other senses. You aren’t dis-abled, you’re differently abled.

I have found that what we call disabled rarely is. So for those who are capable of looking past their own limitations, to date or not is simply finding that little something that attracts one to another.

Actually, I don’t like refering to myself as “differently abled”, “disabled” or anything like that. I was just using the most commonly recognised term. I think these phrases are too often used as blanket labels and are therefore virtually meaningless.

For me, the only appropriate word is “blind”, which it’s definitely ok to say in front of blind people, by the way, rather than “without sight” (lol).

Actually, even though I addressed my post to you, it really was aimed at others. But I suspected you would know that. My use of the term “without sight” was just a PC way of trying to damp the banal crass blind jokes and jabs.

It’s ok, I appreciate it.

As for all those banal and crass jokes, I think some people just unthinkingly hit out at things they don’t understand or maybe scare them, Sad, really.

[Atthet]

There’s something about a blind, pretty girl, that I find highly attractive. I think, this has to do with dependence. A blind girl is very dependent on others. She will need others to help her, guide her, and “see” for her. Imagine this, but in a relationship. The woman depends on her man, he helps her, guides her, sees for her.

It’s like the perfect mate for a philosopher. She is entirely dependent on him. They need to trust each other absolutely, or he would leave her in the dark.

[captaincrunk]

@emptiness

@captaincrunk

@emptiness

Would you break up with your partner if they aquired a disability?

same answer as before, are they still a good lay?

Unfortunately, old age has a very special way of rendering everyone disabled.

if I was old as well, there’d be no lays anyway and I wouldn’t care

[James_S_Saint]

IMH/SO, everyone is merely a different color of disabled. The point to dating is merely to find someone with compatible disabilities to your own.

[nano-bug]

@Atthet

There’s something about a blind, pretty girl, that I find highly attractive. I think, this has to do with dependence. A blind girl is very dependent on others. She will need others to help her, guide her, and “see” for her. Imagine this, but in a relationship. The woman depends on her man, he helps her, guides her, sees for her.

It’s like the perfect mate for a philosopher. She is entirely dependent on him. They need to trust each other absolutely, or he would leave her in the dark.

Dude, in this thread you’ve been borderline perverted and borderline insulting. I’m not sure you’re aware you are coming across this way, but you should probably move on to another thread.

[Maia]

@Atthet

There’s something about a blind, pretty girl, that I find highly attractive. I think, this has to do with dependence. A blind girl is very dependent on others. She will need others to help her, guide her, and “see” for her. Imagine this, but in a relationship. The woman depends on her man, he helps her, guides her, sees for her.

It’s like the perfect mate for a philosopher. She is entirely dependent on him. They need to trust each other absolutely, or he would leave her in the dark.

I assure you I am not dependent on anyone.

[Atthet]

You guys are making some good points. Dependency is “disgusting” to you. And a guy who wants a dependent woman, is also disgusting. I can see your opinion, and I respect it. Maia is an “independent woman”. I respect that too.

But why are you so disgusted with dependency? Is there something wrong, if a woman clings to a man, she needs his help, and he helps her. Isn’t this love? The man leads his blind wife around, seeing for her. That seems very romantic and loving to me.

Is this sick and wrong? Maybe it is. Maybe dependency is sick and wrong. You have a point.

[Tralix]

Has she got massive jublies?

I like this thread, it’s honest.

Anyone would date any woman or man who turned them on regardless of a disability, which in itself means the disability wasn’t a complete turn off in the first place: like liking Justin Beiber for example. You are wrong, get out of my house.

Everyone has disabilities but if you have massive jublies and cock sucking lips, and an ass that wont quite, and a personality, most men will be willing to ignore it, the personality is somewhat optional.

[Only_Humean]

Pretty much what other people have said. Blind or deaf would be OK - I guess a lot of getting used to, but not something that would put me off at all if there were a good click. When I was a student I knew a deaf girl who was just adorable. Sigh… Something behavioural like autism would be much less likely. I can’t really imagine a click there.

I once met a girl who was very sharp, very funny and quite pretty, who had cerebral palsy. That was quite confrontational for me, because had she not had it she’d probably have been my type. But the main problem I’d have had with it at the time was feeling embarrassed/uncomfortable about it as regards other people, and I didn’t like that about myself.

Edit: I should for the sake of full disclosure reveal that she did not have massive jubblies.

[Maia]

@Only_Humean

Pretty much what other people have said. Blind or deaf would be OK - I guess a lot of getting used to, but not something that would put me off at all if there were a good click. When I was a student I knew a deaf girl who was just adorable. Sigh… Something behavioural like autism would be much less likely. I can’t really imagine a click there.

I once met a girl who was very sharp, very funny and quite pretty, who had cerebral palsy. That was quite confrontational for me, because had she not had it she’d probably have been my type. But the main problem I’d have had with it at the time was feeling embarrassed/uncomfortable about it as regards other people, and I didn’t like that about myself.

Edit: I should for the sake of full disclosure reveal that she did not have massive jubblies.

Being concerned about what others might think is one I’ve heard before, more than once.

[Only_Humean]

@Maia

@Only_Humean

Pretty much what other people have said. Blind or deaf would be OK - I guess a lot of getting used to, but not something that would put me off at all if there were a good click. When I was a student I knew a deaf girl who was just adorable. Sigh… Something behavioural like autism would be much less likely. I can’t really imagine a click there.

I once met a girl who was very sharp, very funny and quite pretty, who had cerebral palsy. That was quite confrontational for me, because had she not had it she’d probably have been my type. But the main problem I’d have had with it at the time was feeling embarrassed/uncomfortable about it as regards other people, and I didn’t like that about myself.

Edit: I should for the sake of full disclosure reveal that she did not have massive jubblies.

Being concerned about what others might think is one I’ve heard before, more than once.

It would bother me a lot less now, of course. And something like deafness, blindness or a missing limb would not bother me at all.

[Maia]

@Only_Humean

@Maia

@Only_Humean

Pretty much what other people have said. Blind or deaf would be OK - I guess a lot of getting used to, but not something that would put me off at all if there were a good click. When I was a student I knew a deaf girl who was just adorable. Sigh… Something behavioural like autism would be much less likely. I can’t really imagine a click there.

I once met a girl who was very sharp, very funny and quite pretty, who had cerebral palsy. That was quite confrontational for me, because had she not had it she’d probably have been my type. But the main problem I’d have had with it at the time was feeling embarrassed/uncomfortable about it as regards other people, and I didn’t like that about myself.

Edit: I should for the sake of full disclosure reveal that she did not have massive jubblies.

Being concerned about what others might think is one I’ve heard before, more than once.

It would bother me a lot less now, of course. And something like deafness, blindness or a missing limb would not bother me at all.

I know quite a few blind people who would refuse to date another blind person. It’s not just the practicalities involved, but the insularity within the blind community that they want to escape from.

[Atthet]

I would date a blind girl if she was hot and very knowledgeable of philosophy. I would date a deaf girl if she was hot and liked to read and write a lot of philosophy.

I would not date a hot girl with a missing limb, unless she lost a limb after we already started dating. I would not ask a hot girl with a missing limb out for a first time.

[emptiness]

@captaincrunk

@emptiness

Unfortunately, old age has a very special way of rendering everyone disabled.

if I was old as well, there’d be no lays anyway and I wouldn’t care

Obviously you have never worked with the elderly… they would make you blush

[The_Golden_Turd]

Atthet, have you heard of porn?

Edited on 04-01-13 to remove link to porn site - Magsj

Leave the poor blind girl alone, and please remove the naked pictures of you your using as your avatar… not only can she not see them, but it’s not even that big or impressive, anyone can cut their pubes back and look that avegage. Looks kinda sick actually… like a little hiarless kitten that is tattooed.

[Atthet]

I’m sorry, ONASANDER. I will remove my avatar picture of my big ding dong. I was hoping that Maia would be impressed by it, when I first responded to this thread. But now I know it’s wasted on her, darn. Too bad I can’t make a sound to show how big it its.

I hope nobody takes this joke the wrong way, lol! Besides, Maia won’t care.

[emptiness]

Is… Is that tattooed cat for real?

People never cease to amaze me…