Magnus Anderson wrote:Just a few days ago, I decided to ignore my aunt's cry for help. She was apparently in deep pain. She was beggining to be turned around (she couldn't do it due to paraplegia.) I choose not do so. In fact, I even considered telling her directly that I didn't want to do so. Mind you, I didn't want her to die or to suffer. I just didn't want to give into her whims. I thought she was quite whimsical. After two hours of ignoring her I decided to help her. Her consciousness started to degrade at a very fast rate every since. She died three days later. She had a metastasis, so I was aware that she was going to die, but not this fast. I feel a little bit of guilt. Perhaps if I helped her that night she wouldn't have died . . . that thought haunts me in my dreams. But I am not sure that it is justified. She refused professional help and she relied too much on me. I am no nurse. I wanted to help. But I didn't want to offer her the kind of "help" she asked for. Sometimes, you want to let people suffer. It is the right choice. She denied that she was sick. In fact, she denied she was in pain. She didn't want me to hire a professional nurse to take care of her. There was no other choice.
I've met lots of people who are so desperate for attention, care, and "love" that they will hurt themselves to get it. I knew of a couple that had a psychopathic relationship. The girlfriend would literally hold her boyfriend hostage with threats of suicide. "If you don't love me then I'll kill myself." It's very cruel and selfish by the person who makes such demands. They are usually women who do this, but sometimes children. Males usually do not do this because of having lesser value. It's a very depraved and ignoble disposition, without pride, without honor.
Then again, there are those with too much pride, too much honor, and never ask for help when they should, or when they need to. So there's two sides to this phenomenon.