Maia wrote:Just can't seem to find enthusiasm for anything at all lately.
iambiguous wrote:Well, the most important thing of all here is that you become your own best friend. Next, that you find things that bring you considerable satisfaction. For me, given my own "set of circumstances" it's "philosophy, music, film, art, books, the good stuff on TV".
Then your options. Are you bored because you take considerable satisfaction in things that you are no longer able to gain access to? Then focus on new things that you do have access to.
After all, think of all the things in life that might make you feel less bored: politics, sports, sex, friendships, religion, hobbies etc.
Or, sure, maybe it's all "clinical". The stuff in your brain predisposing you to think and feel as you do. Here some take to medications that help them. For me it was Paxil.
Maia wrote:iambiguous wrote:Well, the most important thing of all here is that you become your own best friend. Next, that you find things that bring you considerable satisfaction. For me, given my own "set of circumstances" it's "philosophy, music, film, art, books, the good stuff on TV".
Then your options. Are you bored because you take considerable satisfaction in things that you are no longer able to gain access to? Then focus on new things that you do have access to.
After all, think of all the things in life that might make you feel less bored: politics, sports, sex, friendships, religion, hobbies etc.
Or, sure, maybe it's all "clinical". The stuff in your brain predisposing you to think and feel as you do. Here some take to medications that help them. For me it was Paxil.
An interesting list of topics there so lets take them one at a time.
Politics
I was once quite interested in this and I suppose the peak of my interest happened at the Brexit vote, when I felt that finally, the people had spoken, and genuine change was possible. Since then it has been a litany of one ridiculous betrayal after another. It seems that politics is pointless, if its aim is to effect genuine change.
Sports
I did a lot of team sports at school and I really enjoyed them. Goalball, squatball and an adapted form of field hockey, mainly. But they are so specialised that I simply haven't been able to persue them since then.
Sex
I few years ago I swore off anything to do with this.
Friendships
Since I work in the evenings my social life has tended to suffer pretty badly.
Religion
My religious leanings are towards Paganism, but again there's very little going on at the moment.
Hobbies
I like reading. But it's pretty solitary.
Urwrongx1000 wrote:I feel that you have had in the past, and have opportunities now, to step out of your comfort zone, but every time the opportunity arises, you close the door.
So I believe it's nobody's fault but yourself on this one.
Urwrongx1000 wrote:I think you know.
Urwrongx1000 wrote:I don't need to.
Pedro I Rengel wrote:Have you tried it?
Pedro I Rengel wrote:Well, speaking true, it depends on your job (income / hours / vacation time). On things like that depend the answer to questions like:
Have you considered hunting?
Right I guess you're in England. But again, depending on availability, you may book a hunting trip somewhere. Maybe Russia.
Rich people don't get bored. And the reason people look at the very very rich, the billionaires, and think "all that money and they don't even go elephant hunting," is that once you make enough wealth, you realize that the accumulation of wealth itself is the least boring thing to do.
Other times, a lack of enthusiasm is a consequence of an active circumstance, rather than a lack of one. What was the last thing you had enthusiasm about?
Then also, I would say some people discover plenty enthusiasm in, whatever, and then what they experience is not so much a lack of it but its replacement with extreme worry, such is the enthusiasm. Let me explain. Think of a mother. At first all bubbles and sunshine. But soon a basket of worry. Enthusiasm comes from something being meaningful to you. Worry can then replace it as a kind of upgrade, rather than lack of. Or like a gold miner who is never "happy" obsessing over the mine and keeping it safe or whatnot. If that miner could choose a place to be or thing to do, he would choose the mine and worrying about it.
I used to think the same thing as promethean75, and as a general rule it kind of works, but Republicans have helped me understand that it is only an excuse. There is no reason, being a native of the first world, you cannot concern yourself with the world to the point of enthusiasm and its derivatives. To find meaning. I don't think anybody gets bored south of the Dixie line.
Also, maybe, think of Hercules. He never got bored, because he set goals. This is perhaps another characteristic of the First World, that you can have a set-up. You are employed, you are guaranteed pretty much everything, and you can pretty much do that until you die. Nothing depends on you, and there is no risk as long as you do your job. The first world allows to not need to set goals. But, if you set one, even arbitrarily, that is beyond your present means: you will never be bored again.
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