Let’s not kid ourselves, of course women look for more than one thing in men.
Looks, personality…
Women vary to some extent too e.g. for some women intellect is important, for others it’s not, as long as he’s smart enough to be a good provider.
Too much intellect could even drive some women batshit, be a real turn off, especially for simpler or insecure women.
Given the opportunity, a woman will choose a middleclass guy who’s charming and handsome over another middleclass guy who’s an ugly jerk, but given the opportunity, would a woman choose a working class guy who’s sweet and handsome over a middleclass guy who’s an ugly asshole?
9 times out of 10, if not 99 times out of 100, women will ditch the working class hero for the middle or upperclass douchebag, especially when she’s ready to settle down.
Yes, women aren’t exactly the same in every way.
Yes, many women are about more than, just money.
And yes, there are a few unicorns out there…somewhere I’m sure, maybe, but you can bet your bottom dollar that for most women across times and places, money is paramount, everything else is secondary, tertiary or inconsequential.
She may fall in love with the working class guy…but chances are she’ll grow to resent him, try to change him.
He’s a ‘fixer upper’, she’ll think to herself, one of her ‘projects’ she’s working on.
And in time he’ll pick up on and grow to resent her resentment, which will make them resent each other all the more, and they will struggle to keep their relationship afloat.
Most women will ditch the man their with for a significant raise in socioeconomic status…and I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with that, or that men are any ‘better’.
A lot of men will ditch the homely gal for the blonde bombshell, no matter how sweet, smart and devoted to him the homely gal is, but that’s the way it is, however we don’t lie to ourselves about male nature the way we do about female nature.
It’s not about what a woman says, so much as what she does.
Women don’t want to be known as gold-diggers, that’s another part of what makes women, women.
They want to seem sweeter, more innocent or sophisticated than what they truly are, and they’ll lie, even to themselves, in order to appear as such.