Addressed to sillouette as well.
I assumed you all remembered three or 4 threads ago where we went through precisely why I word it this way:
Let me put it this way again:
Most people like to be surprised, all consent violations are suprizes but not all suprizes are consent violations, there’s what’s called"pleasantly surprised".
The whole point of a pleasant suprize is that it needs to run the fine line of possibly always being a consent violation.
Some people just outright hate any suprize.
So here’s the finer point I tried to make and clarify.
Most people want a reality where what would ordinarily be a consent violation for most people isn’t one for them, but they cannot know one way or the other until it actually occurs for them.
So… this is the fine line of consent violation to that regard.
Now imagine this: someone states "I want my possible suprizes to be WITHIN THIS RANGE, but NO MORE than this range.
What they’re doing here is putting themselves in the position to be horrified with possible surprises in that range, but they are setting the terms of the limit of the range.
The finer reason why this specific area needs to be articulated, is because, in hyperdimensional mirror realities, you can reflect the eternal form with or without modification. People who want to get to know the person or be with the person as they fully are, without modification is highly desirable for those who want the challenge of the full breadth of the person being reflected. But, as you consent to this, you are suddenly opening yourself up to what could be a major consent violation by practicing this degree of uncontrolled trust. Meaning: serious consent violation.
So, I move an additional layer back and state that , yes, people may want their consent violated at some point for an immersive experience peculiar to them and not others, BUT, given this, EVERYONE wants some terms to be their own.
If you say for example, it’s ok if you violate my consent, someone may then send you to hell forever.
But, if you state, it’s ok if you violate my consent, but if I want you to stop, you must stop immediately. You can’t take advantage of me opening the door for one second and give me infinite consequence.
Most people don’t even know what’s out there, so their are neither making informed decisions on consent, nor are they fully aware of what they would enjoy.
So, the way I word this, is that most people actually do want some degree of consent violation, however, in stating this, everyone wants it on their own terms.
If you can think of a better way of putting this, be my guest.