I know you identified yourself as “Gloominary” when you signed up here, but I’m going to call you Poopyface. You are entitled to think of yourself as “Gloominary”, but, by your reasoning, you aren’t entitled to have me perceive you as anything other than Poopyface if that’s how I perceive you, and, apparently, you aren’t entitled to complain that I have chosen to call you Poopyface, despite that any reasonable observer would guess that you would prefer not to be called Poopyface.
This is an admittedly and intentionally juvenile spin on what it seems like you’re doing. There is no law, nor should there be, that says that when you tell me your name is John, I am prohibited from responding, “No, I think I’ll call you Mike instead, Mike’s a much better name for you than John.” There should be no such law. But we need no such law, people grant to others the dignity of the name they offer. If someone says they are John, then we take them at their word and call them John. I’ve met many people who go by a name that isn’t their given name and isn’t their legal name, and yet it is still obvious to me, and seems obvious to everyone I’ve seen them interact with, that the name they indicate as the name they’d prefer to be called is the name that it is polite to call them.
The parallel with sex is not exact, but it is importantly similar. Men and women occupy different social roles, not just different sexual roles, and we can think of these differences separately. We know that a transwoman will not menstruate or get pregnant, but insofar as these sorts of considerations are irrelevant, where sex serves only the social purpose of signaling how we treat someone and how we expect them to behave in non-sexual and non-reproductive settings, to self-identify and present as a certain sex should be accorded the same courtesy as we accord the decision to introduce oneself by a particular name or to, through style of dress or grooming, to identify oneself as a member of some subculture.
This includes the use of gendered bathrooms (though they be a relic of a much more prudish past). To the extent there is a harm presented, police the harm, not the poor proxy for an expectation of harm. If someone is actually attacking or harassing people in a bathroom, the sex of the people involved is roughly irrelevant. There is no epidemic of abuse of these policies, and the places where self-selection is most respected, and where transsexuals are most prevalent, there is no attendant increase in the sorts of negative behaviors that critics claim as motivation. This charge is bullshit, and clearly ad hoc.
So recognize people as a matter of basic manners. You aren’t making a biological claim when you treat someone as the gender with which they identify, and you most likely won’t have an opportunity to test whether they have the genitals or genetic basis to backup their claimed identity. But in the same way you won’t ask someone for their license or birth certificate, and would likely respect their proffered named even if you did find that it didn’t match their birth or legal name, you should respect peoples other choices of self-identity.
I know I have seen you on here shilling for Fleshlight, so I feel like the fakeness of the vagina can’t have much to do with it.
I’ve had dudes proposition me in the past and had to figure a way to let them down easy because, like you, there ain’t NO way I could. I don’t even like manly women with genuine XX chromosomes. So I make it seem as if the problem is me and my hangup (which may be true) and probably they can find someone else who doesn’t have my problem. It really is a sad situation. One guy said he was pre-op and wondered if I would be more attracted after the operation, so I said “not unless you’re swapping chromosomes”. As far as I know, that’s impossible and lets me off the hook.