Valued…as what? That’s like saying people who are forced to sell their kidneys to feed their families are also valued by their recipients. I mean, talk about your kind of privilege! I’m sure serial killers assign certain value to their victims, too…in their own twisted way (if only their victims could also see and appreciate that, as well). Just how self-negating does one have to be to let others define their (so called objective!) value?
. Women usually get harsher sentences for killing their (abusive) partners because their acts are usually interpreted as premeditated, whereas men’s are usually seen to occur in the fit of fury, where an actual intent to kill is harder to prove. takepart.com/article/2015/09 … men-prison
Value is a very complicated concept. But can you deny the more ‘objective’ utility for females and women, as a gender? If not sex, then what else? Do women ‘add’ to humanity, outside getting pregnant, giving birth, and raising children? Do women really “do more” than that?
Pandora, listen closely. A few years ago, on another forum, I debated a young feminist girl at length. At the end of our exchanges, she revealed something very important to me. It was what I believed to be her deepest fear and insecurity. She admitted this inadvertently and accidentally, she didn’t mean to clue me into her modus operandi. And what she admitted to me, was that she feared that women’s “purpose and meaning” revolve around pleasuring men. She was against that prospect and possibility, with all her mentality.
So after that exchange, I questioned the proposition. What if that’s all there is to it? What if her deepest fear, has a real platform? What if that’s the core of it?
What if your value revolves around others, around men? You tell me.
Everyone’s value revolves around others when others are discussing their value. Women have an uncompromising eye for detail and precision, far surpassing that of men for one seen greatly in intricate tech assembly jobs, also greater balance, endurance and slower metabolisms which allow survival for longer in harsh conditions, but women need to realize all of their realistic abilities which most women have no clue of today. The greatest reason for me to launch a women’s only intentional community would be to open women’s eyes to what their possibilities and their limits are in every aspect of life.
Males have more ‘independent’ values because males are the expendable gender. In other words, society simply doesn’t ‘need’ males, in general. This forces males to become independent (of a system/hierarchy that automatically excludes them).
You, as a woman, wouldn’t understand (what it’s like to be the expendable gender).
Bullshit.
If you mean detail-oriented about dresses, shoes, and jewelry, then maybe you have a point.
I do not derive enjoyment, nor have the need to use and abuse men like that, even if it’s what they want and crave. Personally, I consider it rather cruel (or charity work at best), and my respect for such men is really low, because these men are really like drug addicts who are unable to master themselves (dyonisian, if you will).
In this whole sex issue you make it sound like there is only two choices present: use and abuse, or be used and abused. This is the area that BDSM deals with, as well, both physically and psychologically. (Sadistic/destructive/controlling vs. masochistic/self-destructive/helpless). And even though these people may paint themselves in a naturalistic or even positive light, I personally see it as a symptom of a psychological inadequacies (why does one’s well-being in these situations depend on controlling or degrading another; or alternatively, be controlled or degraded?) And since you’re talking about taking responsibility here, the hedonistic or cathartic factor present in these situations, especially with a woman taking charge, points to an innate desire of men to relinquish it. Consider what need drives men to seek female dominatrices. Same with the psychologies of hopeless romantics who chase the feeling of being in love down.
But back to your question, sexual dimorphism and all that comes along with it may have co-evolved, and may even be necessary for continuation of the species, but to proclaim it the end of all, or even elevate it above all else, is very animalistic. Essentially, that’s like saying that the highest and noblest goal of humanity is eating and fucking. And where is taking responsibility for one self in that? I don’t see it.
Maybe to a man, yes, but not necessarily to a woman herself; and not even in all cases. As an example, what value does a very fat or ugly, or old woman have to a man? Most feminist movements aim for woman’s independence, so a woman can have a freedom to have a self-determining value that is also recognized by society at large. Before this a women would probably have to go and live alone in some mountain cave with a herd of goats (like Tenzin Palmo).
The point is that feminists like her, or a woman like you, seem resentful of your own gender, and resentful of the function of your sexuality. You detest the notion that sex does act as pleasure, for the sole purpose of facilitating reproduction of biology. You ignore the most obvious, simplest of facts, the fact of Gender-Itself. You cannot stop Nature, in the same way the Feminists cannot change Nature. To resent what your sex is, what your sex offers, does expose the charade of ‘Feminism’ and other such ideologies, which are bent on resisting Nature.
I have no doubt that sex, ‘Gender’, makes a feminist like her, and like you, feel lower as women. In other words, you and her are resentful of being and becoming women. Of embracing your gender, your sexuality.
I think “the truth” is most exposed by fat, ugly, and old women, who receive very little attention compared to the young, beautiful, thin women. Women secretly enjoy being the target of men’s attention, affection, and competition. Another thing women have exposed to me over the years, is how much they/you enjoy being fought over, and fought for. That is the most flattering fact of Gender, of being a woman, of being privileged-protected-prized.
That’s what I’ll call it:
Privileged.
Protected.
Prized.
The valuable half of the species.
Again, it’s not until males make themselves valuable (a result of specialization and Artificiality), that some, rare males, may become as valuable as a woman, or more so. In other words, when are men ever necessary? Or, more necessary than a simple woman? For all mankind’s achievements, how many men can compete with the innate value of a woman’s sex?
. This is how men like you want to see women, as sex objects and nothing else, because it boosts your own ego that is so deeply entrenched in your own animal nature that you allow to control you.
These African men see it the same way, and look at the consequences. But of course a man like you, owned by his own dick and it’s reflection, will only see it as another example of female privilege as well, and then, blame the women for the consequences, even while denying them any fair alternatives. (But of course, nature does not provide women with any alternatives, making them entirely dependent on their dumb men who just bring everybody down.). How does one even break this chain?
I bet you’re one of those men who thinks that some poor Philippina girl feels empowered by her gender by selling herself to some old “rich” foreigners in order to feed her family. But would she still do it if she had all the money and opportunities to do what she wanted with her life? Would she still sell herself just to feel empowered? I doubt it.
It is the truth about how men see women, not about how women are themselves.
. Lol! I wouldn’t even give two shits. I’ve been through too much. But there is a very strong vibe of jealousy and insecurity about you. I really suggest that you ease off on comparing yourself with just about everything and everybody around you. And stay away from garbage like Yahoo Entertainment. These things are having a bad influence on you and your sense of manhood.
This is the your fallacy, Pandora. You keep repeating it, as-if it’s true. I’m not saying “and nothing else”. Rather what I’m saying is primary and core. You are ignoring the function of gender, of ‘Male’ versus ‘Female’. So this is your cognitive blind-spot. Maybe you’re incapable of objectivity. The fact that you keep repeating “and nothing else”, expresses your own attitude of femininity.
Women could “do more”. But why, and what? You are underestimating the importance of child-rearing. You are furthermore underestimating the importance of genetic-screening.
Women are worse. Women will readily cut each-other to shreds, on looks and appearance, on beauty, if you can benefit from it. It’s easy to point-out. Women will step all over each-other if it means attention from an attractive man.
Your argument is that women are at core the priviledged gender, and I showed you examples where your so-called priviledge also works against women, putting them at a disadvantage and making them vulnerable to abuse.
And you either do not see it, or keep disregarding it.
I’m not underestimating the importance of child-rearing, I just think that a woman’s position and function in society should not be limited to her reproductive role, and her subsistence should not be dependent solely on (inadequate and unreliable) men. You can see the potential visible outcomes of limiting women’s access to education and earning capacities by confining them to their reproductive roles and making them increasingly dependent on men. It’s really like a gambling situation in which a woman doesn’t even have a say. If she’s completely economically dependent on her man she doesn’t really have a choice, and if her husband dies or leaves her, and she’s left with kids, she’s really out of luck. So now she may have to go and prostitute herself to strangers, so again, because of limited economic opportunities, she’s placed in a situation where she’s dependent on men.
And this you call a priviledge.
Lol! Maybe in high school.
(Though some women will compete for a rich man. But I say, let woman take care of herself so she wouldn’t have to do all this nonsense).
I’m going to steal this thread with the meta discussion on women.
If all:
Bullying stopped on earth
Rape stopped on earth
Habitat issues stopped on earth
Financial issues stopped on earth
Homicide stopped in earth
Physical torture stopped on earth
Disease stopped on earth
Infertility stopped on earth
ZERO females would commit suicide
MILLIONS of men would commit suicide each year
It is a deterministic system stemming from female psycho sexuality - females are currently and will always be the last mass murderers
Where in this sea of words are the examples of disadvantages of women leading to abuse? I can’t think of even one.
Do you mean they’re physically smaller? Then why do the smaller women pick giant men and deliberately put themselves in defenseless positions? That is not inherent, but choice.
That’s it… I’m out of ideas.
On the other hand, women have the advantage:
Police let women go
If cops come to a domestic violence situation, the man is going to jail regardless of anything.
Women get half in divorce and can actually make a living marrying men.
Women can stand on a corner and make a living while men cannot.
Women have every advantage a man has PLUS sexual allure and the victim card. Women are like gods and the problem is they know it. Even the fat ugly ones can get away with murder.
Or is it the men who seek out smaller females to complement their sense of masculinity? Not all women want to be with giants. As for putting themselves in a position to be physically abused by bigger men , I agree, women bear some responsibility for that. Hopefully, these lessons are quickly learned.
And that a woman’s fault for being a woman, right? Maybe we should have more female police officers, in that case. Or maybe the male police officers should mind their job at work, rather than trying to inflate themselves before women.
This depends on a situation. If a smaller woman tried to defend herself, she’d probably have to use a weapon, meaning she herself probably gets to be locked up for even longer time.
You disregard all the selfless effort and sacrifice that a woman gives to the family. It’s harder for women to find a job after divorce because she has spent most of her younger years on raising family. Maybe if she also had her own successful business and had her own income while married, she (and the children, if they stay with her) may not need the ex’s money.
That’s not a priviledge, that’s an act of self degradation. But if you’re so jealous of it (as most men are for some reason) you’d be happy to know that in these days the men’s right to sell themselves on the street to other men is also becoming more recognized.
I would leave out the sexual allure as an advantage, as not all women make it their life goal to sleep their way up to success.
And it’s really annoying when men think like that, because it’s this kind of thinking that’s perpetuated by men themselves. No woman of any sense of self-worth would rub it in a man’s face that she can always prostitute herself on a street corner if the worse came to worst. This kind of insecure jealousy by men is astounding. I bet this is also the kind of light hearted attitude about this subject that encourages the men involved in sex trafficking (and pimping) women to downplay or outright disregard the damage that is actually done. And as if to make the women go along with their (“objective”) kind of reasoning, they also put these women on drugs. The men just can not comprehend the long-term damage that this kind of activity can do to a woman, as if a woman gets some kind of power trip out of it, or should. This is how men objectify women in their minds, and when women refuse to accept it, they just call women unreasonable or irrational.
I mean, do you drive by the red light districts, past all the hookers, and think to yourself, “Gosh! I wish I was a female prostitute! Wouldn’t that be great?”
As for equal advantages in the work place, I would say that in most developed countries that is the case, for the most part. But not so much in the developing or underdeveloped countries, where laws still favor men, and the women are still dependent on their men.
You and urwrong are like two peas in a pod. You’re too obsessed with women and comparing yourself to them. Your argument boils down to women not needing equal legal rights because they can always be prostitutes and earn their living by selling their bodies (to god-knows-whom-but-who-cares-as-long-as-they-have-money) and if they chose to forsake prostitution for real work, then that would give them an unfair advantage. You both are very jealous of female sex, but the funny thing is, it’s not even justified because it’s all driven by your own (male) idealized version of the female sex, and not by the reality of being a female.
Men are not hornier than women, because of the stratification of number of partners, they are more sexualized from sexual neglect. That is an actual female privilege .
Came across this story of Iron John, and it reminded me of a Jakob’s comment on betas killing off the alphas. I don’t know when it happened or exactly how it happened, but I wouldn’t be surprised that something like this did actually happen at some point.
Another interesting interview, this time with a serial killer.
[youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pFfc151Zkg4[/youtube]
His basic main argument is that it was essentially his mother’s fault, in that she drove him to murders, or was seen by him as the cause.
I personally have a very reserved attitude towards his reasoning. For one, he comes across to me as pathological liar. He’s very eloquent and talkative, yes, but eloquence does not equate the truth, and is often an indication of the opposite. I would say that it might have been his own intrinsic limitations or weaknesses that played the resulting part. Yes, the mother may have been a contributing factor as an instigator, but his own willlessness was The defining factor. Why did he not just run away from home? Many in such situations do just that and end up with better lives.
But for the sake of the argument I will accept his reasoning, which brings me to several questions.
One, would he not have become a serial killer if it were his father who was perpetually abusing him? I would say that most of the intentional abuse would come from the male, rather then the female. And historically, there are many stories of fathers beating and demeaning their own sons.
Secondly, I wouldn’t say that he did not have any choice in the matter. Countless of men eventually find ways to overcome their insecurities and move on with their lives (find a gf, move away, get married, and start own family). What is it that made him unable to do so? Was it again completely his mother’s fault? If that were so, then we can say that all the single mothers from abusive or unsuccessful relationships would automatically also raise dysfunctional men. Now, if this is some kind of vicious circle, where can one pinpoint the beginning of it? And is a man’s fate predetermined if he’s raised in a dysfunctional family?
Firstly, “cheating” is a bullshit term that applies to female psychology — since women select for sexually jealous men, men assume the aggressive role of “cheating” as well if women do it too.
Practically speaking, there is still high stratification even with multiple partners.
Market Analysis: youtube.com/watch?v=2h6s64zkUaA
(I think in the future, as male beauty industry becomes more socially accepted, businesses that are into hair pieces are going to be very successful; heck, maybe male wigs will even come back into fashion)
That’s what you and your gender is. Even this conversation, I pull punches, and forgive your continuous stream of logical fallacies, because you are a woman and can barely manage a philosophical position.
I disregard it because 1 beaten-battered-bruised woman, out of 100, doesn’t represent the whole. 1 bad apples, and you throw out the whole barrel? This is the bottom of your argument? Because 1 woman is raped, then all women are not the privileged gender? It’s a bad argument. And it doesn’t speak to the other 99 women, who aren’t raped, and who have a good rapport with men. In other words, most women have a positive relationship with most men. That is the average and above-average, the top 50% of humanity. 3,000,000,000 people can attest to my side of the argument.
The more you try to slide in rare examples of the worst atrocities, to pass them off as normal, the worse your “argument” becomes.
Who really “limits” women from participating in society? Men? Or Women?
Women choose to not participate. Because it’s easier to be a consumer, a taker of resources, than it is to actually produce for others.
Think of Farmers. The men do the farming. The women do the housework. The MEN do the farming. The men do the actual production of food, for the entire country. Women are relegated to the more ‘indoor’ work, of child-birthing, and child-rearing.
No matter how much you paint the picture, trying to ‘switch’ gender around, the fact is still clear as day. It’s always been the same. Women have never taken up the mantle. Women choose to be indoors. To enjoy that privilege, protection, prize.
The (innately) valuable half of the specie. Men must ‘do’ work, to become valuable. Men must build value, from nothing, from zero. That is the real gender-difference.
Let’s go back to the farmers.
If a farmer dies, then who takes care of his wife and kids? Generally, the eldest son will take over for the deceased father. In other cases, an uncle, cousin, or extended family, will take in the assets and do with them what they decide.
In no circumstance are the women and children ever ‘unprivileged’. Society will quickly reimburse them. The entire law system is built around protecting women and children, before men.
This is the “modern woman feminist” fallacy.
What “independence” have you ever gained for yourself? Modern women create an illusion of independence, so as to gain self-esteem, and dip into the delusion that “women are not the privileged gender”. I think a lot of smarter, more observant women, know they are the privileged gender, and feel very guilty for it. I’ve seen that a lot, even on this forum.
Females tend to feel guilty, from a young age, because they begin to understand the nature and depth of their (female) privilege. In other words, women can hit and cause harm, but cannot themselves be hit or be harmed. It’s impunity, “never hit a woman”.
No such rules apply to men. Men are okay to be hit, maimed, injured, killed. As with war, where most of the men do most of the dying.
Males are the expendable gender, born worthless, zero value.
Females are the privileged-protected-prized gender, born with a lot of worth, and a lot of inherent value.
Society welcome the arrival of daughters, but disdains the fact of new males, new sons, entering the fray. Society is anti-male. Males are a liability, not an asset. This is true not just in the human specie, but biologically, across almost all species.
For example, in lion prides, young males are chased out very soon. Because they want sexual access to the females, beginning with puberty.
Urwrong, I think your own thinking is clouded with your own jealousy and low self-esteem, as in your obsessive comparisons (which very likely revolve around your own self-perceived deficiencies), you, and other men like you, do not even see the other side of your so-called “female priviledge”. To me, you’re like a little kid who, in his ignorance, wants something only because he doesn’t or cannot (yet) have it. But based on what I can see about you, you might be happy to know that the world is actually moving towards satisfying your apparent innate desires of full-filling your lacking self. Someday soon, you’ll have a right to experience being a coveted “priviledged gender” yourself. I say that because of your thinking. No man who is content in being one would have the need to obssess with what it’s like being a woman, and incessantly compare his own sense of self to one. But that is just my opinion (I’m not claiming here to be objective). You seem to make your self too much about women, which is another way to saying there is no apparent solid sense of self there. Does a woman now define who you are? Based on your obsessive comparisons to women, apparently so. And I will repeat this again, comparing yourself to everyone and everything around you does not make you objective, it only makes you a selfless reflective surface. But I cannot really even make you see it because then I’d be encouraging you to follow a woman’s advice, and for someone like you, we can’t really have that, right? So, I’ll leave you to following whatever people or ideology around you that you wish to incorporate into your sense of being a man, or whatever it is that deep down you really desire to be.
