Yes Carleas is the exception and not the norm. I thought he was a regular member until this thread. That’s the way I’d want it if I ran a show… because otherwise everyone would jump on me and start kissing my butt. I don’t want to be admired or hated but just considered worthy of consideration.
Jerry Seinfeld said he hated drunks because they’re always either telling you how much they love you or hate you.
[i]Jerry: But in a way, I think I inadvertantly turned this guy into an alcoholic. I hate being around alcoholics because they’re either telling you how much they love you or how much they hate you. And those are the two statements that scare me the most. But I think he’s okay now because I have no idea how he feels about me. He’s finally off the wagon.
Dick: You mean on the wagon.
Jerry: Don’t get smart.[/i]
seinfeldscripts.com/TheRedDot.htm
I think people are very back to the wall, at least in their emotions. It feels like the world is ending so they defend their lines very tightly. A mod who admits he or she has abused power or made a mistake may feel like if they admit it, they will deal with this all the time. Not that that’s a justification, just an explanation.
There is probably truth to that, but here is a case involving a private message. I signed up on a psychology board where a pm is automatically dispatched by the owner who is a Dr of psychiatry. Within the message he went to great lengths in relating to people who were presumed to be spammers until proven otherwise. Since he went to such lengths in empathy and since he is a Dr who invariably deals with crazy people all the time, lol, I decided it was safe to reply to the pm complaining that it’s unethical to presume guilt. Yeah, he bit my head off. Empathy went out the window and he got defensive right off the bat then said he’s “all ears” waiting for my recommendation for how to handle all the spam. I said “captcha”. He didn’t reply. It just goes to show that even the professionals in private are not immune to feeling defensive.
I remember once on the phone with customer service where I asked why it seems all the agents are so nice. She said “they send us to school.” People have to be taught to talk to people and the customer is always right if you want to be in business. It’s a hard skill to learn and I don’t have it
Of course, some don’t seem interested in running a business, but displaying their power for all to see which is evidenced by the exhibition of the banned:
goingyourownway.com/mgtow-banned/
thethinkingatheist.com/forum … Log–20087
Check out the rules of this one:
survivalistboards.com/showthread.php?t=2
The rules for this site are simple:
So simple it took 2896 words (according to Word) to lay them out
At first glance you wouldn’t think survivalists would need so much protection, being rough tough men n all, but after further consideration, building safe spaces is kinda what they’re into.
And here is the ass-kissing I was on about earlier:
The Following 281 Users Say Thank You to ~kev~ For This Useful Post:
They always have a trail of minions congratulating their every move and that behavior would make me feel cheesy, so I wouldn’t want anyone to know I’m the admin.
The mod should obviously have allowed you guys to work it out. If tough talk is allowed, well, that would go for you too.
Thanks for that. It’s nice to know I’m not alone in my thinking. Yes, we would have worked it out if the mod hadn’t tried to fix it. I did like the guy, but I think there might have been a language barrier on top of maybe some autism stuff or something. He was smart and really wanted to help me, but in a master/groveling-student kinda way.