I believe that men, males, innately want freedom in life, far much more than women do. This reason and cause comes from thousands of years of men providing (civilization) for women, leading to complex and sophisticated forms of safety and security. Most of humanity don’t need to worry about such things like starvation and dying of thirst, for example. And despite Wendy’s claims, she’s wrong, most women don’t need to worry so much about sexual assaults. Maybe 49% of women have overall bad sexual experiences in life. Maybe 51% of women have overall good sexual experiences.
However, males need freedom, because society is anti-male. While life can be very, very competitive for any man or woman, in different regards, the competition among men, in masculine terms, is categorically different than women. Women’s competition is very superficial, although psychological and emotional. Women destroy each other’s minds, using passive-aggressive tactics, shaming tactics, and “psychological warfare”. Females can make others commit suicide, depression, or life a living hell, hence the term “happy wife happy life” stereotype.
Males want to be outside civilization, return to nature, the wild, however there is nothing left of the wild anymore. All places on earth are covered. Globalization is setting in.
When there are no places to escape to, masculinity becomes “toxic masculinity”, a popular phrase in modern times. It’s increasing in popularity. What does “toxic masculinity” mean, except, males have no places to escape to? Males have fewer and fewer places to be honest, to speak openly, or just “to be” in peace. Could it be, by the very nature of being born male, that boys and men are threats to society and civilization? And how much of a threat? This becomes obvious by criminality and warfare. Most criminals and soldiers are male. That explains a large percentage.
For a male who wants to “live in peace”, it is hard-won if at all. I believe that this is another reason the popular, mass religions, like Christianity, originally started up and became so popular. Because average men want to live in peace, but there is no peace to be found within civilization. Males must learn to suppress themselves, and Christianity developed this self-suppression, self-restraint, jailing oneself in cells, cubicles (offices), dorms (dormitories), etc.
Males literally jail themselves off from society, intentionally, to take a break from the constant, endless sexual competitions. In modern terms, this means “safe-spaces”, autistic bubble-realities, virtual realities, etc.
Women don’t need safe spaces, since, civilization was built for them. They won’t ever understand, nor do they want to, nor possibly, do they have the empathetic compulsion, the physical requirement, to understand. Women care about themselves, not others, until they have children, which technically are extensions of themselves anyway. A woman’s biological child is technically not “another”, something foreign and strange, but an extension of herself. Hence why a woman’s natural narcissism extends to protect her own children.
It’s instinct.