Ok then. I thought that you were using the word “fate” to mean something which we had no power over, no means to control, that the life which we were given was/is the only one which would come to us. In other words, pre-destination or a unique or peculiar destiny already written in the stars. I don’t see that.
We are nevertheless entitled to our own perspectives.
Really. I deny “fate” as per a personal destiny that was “meant to be” BUT I do not see my life as being “unfulfilled”. Considering what the more or less usual lifespan is, we can honestly say that when we die there is still some or much potential that has not come to fruition ~~ depending on who we are and how we think.
Why? because the world is our oyster and there are many possibilities. Who can possibly fulfill all of them?They come and they go as we live the life we “choose”. If we live lives of consciousness, or try to, hopefully we see them coming and we fulfill them ~~ we “carpe diem”.
But that, for me, has nothing to do with not following our “given” fate. Many sense a raison de etre but this is grounded and comes to be as a result of our life’s journey, which is unique to all of us. That raison de etre may also change with more consciousness and more of a diversified life.
I have also questioned whether or not there could be a personal destiny written in the stars but I don’t grab hold of something and automatically believe it simply because it might make me feel good about myself or because I feel like some helpless leaf blowing in the wind. We create our own destinies, if we choose to be creative. We use the energy which we have within us or which we are to create and transform continually our own lives and that is a beautiful thing.
If, at the end of our lives, we have regrets about not having accomplished this or that, it is because they are far too short – but then again, not everyone feels that way either.
If not, it is because we are nothing but couch potatoes who refuse to be planted somewhere to grow.
That is my perspective. You needn’t concur with it.