the term “Pleasure”, as classically understood, is more linked to Dopamine, whose activity causes quantum bursts of pleasure
At least that’s what the shrinks used to say. But they were wrong too, I find that it is a quantitative type of pleasure is what dopamine is linked to. As opposed to the other qualitative type of pleasure that we speak of next:
the term happiness, on the other hand, is similar to the term elation and is more linked to Norepinephrine (also look up “anandamide”, which is a part of this Norepinephrine/endocannabinoid-anandamide complex, as one may call it)
Then, they clearly not doing it right.
For men, as well as women, sex as part of an affectionate, trusting relationship, can be extremely rewarding.
Far beyond mere pleasure and well on the way to happiness.
Most healthy people don’t portion out their activities, one to each interpersonal relationship: football with this friend, validation from that one,
playing chess with him, studying with her, jogging with this one, sex with that one…
Physical is just a small part of true intimacy. It has to do with trust and faith. A man that just wants sex will eventually be seen and felt unless the female is an abandoned female.
Of course. Why wouldn’t they?
People don’t love their male babies any less than their female babies - more, in some counries. Mothers don’t pay less attention to their sons than their daughters - more, in many families. Children in homes, playgrounds and sports fields don’t discriminate.
Americans touch one another as much as anyone else - more than many cultures. Boys get petted, groomed, hugged, soothed, bandaged, reassured, congratulated, nudged, wrestled and consoled as much as girls - possibly more. Boys and men touch one another in just as many, if not more, friendly, affectionate and competitive ways as girls and women. Boys and girls start touch each other in kindergarten and having sex in middle school, if popular literature is to be believed. By senior year in high-school, boyfriends and girlfriends are all over each other, in public.
And for the truly repulsive, there is always massage with a happy ending.