If you’re asking questions such as “is emotion X more tolerable than emotion Y?” then it means you have a problem regulating your emotions.
Though, it is true, you might find certain emotions easier to regulate than others.
My point being that no emotion that is regulated is a problem.
In general, no action that is regulated is a problem.
The kind of action – irrelevant.
The intensity of action – irrelevant.
What is relevant?
Whether it is regulated or not.
Regulated/unregulated determines good/bad.
What does it mean that an action is regulated?
That it corresponds to the expected.
Before one acts, one forms an expectation of how one will act. This expectation, this prediction, is what we call goal.
Good means the outcome matches the expectation.
Bad means the outcome does not match the expectation.
We make expectations, we posit goals, every step of the way.
Every step is a goal.
Every step is preceded by an expectation and then compared against it in order to determine whether it is a success or a failure.
This applies to emotions.
Before emotions kick in, we have certain expectations.
And if our emotions contradict these expectations, then we feel overwhelmed.
The solution is to understand your emotions.
To map them so that you can predict them in the future.