Acceptance of reality. The shedding of your ideologies that force you to have a disconnected view of reality.
Weâve been conditioned in a way that warps our biology, i.e. the perspective of love. Biologically, love exists for a distinct purpose. Socially, we have perverted this purpose. Instead of accepting that love helps us procreate, weâve been manipulated into seeing love as a path of happiness. This is so ingrained into our minds that we see it as vital to our ability to be happy/content/fulfilled⌠the irony is that happiness/contentment/fulfillment actually lies within us.
We use love as one way to validate our self-worth. When weâre rejected, it has the opposite affect, we feel less valuable as a being (like weâre lacking something). This is what youâre experiencing when you have your heart âbrokenâ. If you accept yourself, as you currently exist, without thinking that youâre incomplete in some manner or lacking some core component⌠you would not be suffering these harmful emotions and/or doubts.
As for the regrets, itâs the same underlying issue, failure to accept reality as it is⌠rather than how you wish it to be. The time, the effort, the resources⌠all spent living life and experiencing it for what it is and what it isnât. Your perspective is what makes these things a positive or negative experience.
Logic and aesthetics in combination does cure a broken heart.
Donât ask me to go into detail, but if the two disciples mesh, the flaws will become seen as a deceptive and forlorn self punishment. It is that simple. However the appearent simplicity masks the years of not being able to reduce it as such.
Only if you live a life in perfect denial and/or believe in a puppeteer God who you will love no matter what, without question.
There was a time when I felt that the concept of amor fati was a beautiful oneâŚbut perhaps I had not taken my thinking far enoughâŚ
I want to learn more and more to see as beautiful what is necessary in things; then I shall be one of those who makes things beautiful. Amor fati: let that be my love henceforth! I do not want to wage war against what is ugly. I do not want to accuse; I do not even want to accuse those who accuse. Looking away shall be my only negation. And all in all and on the whole: some day I wish to be only a Yes-sayer.
It is important to note that Nietzsche in this context refers to the âYes-sayerâ, not in a political or social sense, but as a person who is capable of uncompromising acceptance of reality per se.
My formula for greatness in a human being is amor fati: that one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backward, not in all eternity. Not merely bear what is necessary, still less conceal itâall idealism is mendacity in the face of what is necessaryâbut love it.
At some point in our lives, there might come a time when we would have to come to accept the above list thing[s] which I mentioned in order to save our sanity and live again but that doesnât mean that we would âseeâ these things as the BEST things which happened or come to love themâŚeven if some good eventually occurred; for instance, having another child. Thatâs taking it to farâŚat least for me.
Your attitude for me appears to be more than a bit fatalistic but I may be wrong.
Thinking your way IS a slow kind of dying miserably.
There is a reason that a horse wears blinders but even a horse doesnât wear them all of the time.
If you take yours off, you will be able to see a much more panoramic landscape to your life, to life in general.
Itâs there.
Contrary to what you believe, we need to see also the good and the beautiful in order to thrive and to want to live.
If all things have the same status, none of them can be best. In order to have âbestâ, you must also have something that is not as good. A thing has to be better than another thing in order for it to be best.
Yes, youâre right. Perhaps a way round that would be to call the things you like the most, the best things, and only call the things you donât like, the worst things.
I believe that you are contradicting yourself here, One Liner.
First you seem to see differences and then you donât.
Why would you see tragedy as a part of the âbest thingsâ? It may be one thing to be fatalistic and pessimistic but itâs another to view all of human reality and the human experience as being the same as youâre doing. Youâre also taking the âindividualâ out of the equation. We become more like the Borg and less human in that way. But thatâs just my thinking.
Your statement seems to me to be one of âliving a lieâ. We sometimes do this because we are afraid to face reality, afraid to see the tragic parts of our lives because of what it might do to us so we choose to live in our own little coccoons. The only thing is that we cannot begin to fly free like the butterfly does until we break free of the fear that binds us by looking at things rightly.
The only thing is that weâre unable to really experience the good and positive when we do this.
I think itâs just a coping mechanism. We all have them but some are better living tools than others.
If pain, loss, tragedy is the same to you as beauty, meaning, happiness, joy et cetera, youâve missed the boat.