Heart

Perhaps I might have said because it’s a stupid thing to do.

But if I keep making the same mistakes, and doing the same things over and over again with the same results, I would call myself stupid.

And isn’t that one of the definitions of insanity- expecting the same results after doing the same thing over and over again.

What is it that Forest Gump said - stupid is as stupid does.

Damage control? Where is the damage control?
As a matter of fact, it was probably in ignoring it in the first place, which caused all of the heartbreaks.

People do that all of the time. In order to ignore the pain, to not feel it, they rebound.
The man or woman who soooooooooooo loves their other, where are they? In the bars looking for that “special” someone to help them forget about that other “special” someone.

That IS stupid!

How do you know they did the same thing over and over? Ever watch Looney Tunes?
It’s like when the character tries all sorts of methods and techniques, yet each time is met with a new and unique failure no matter what they do or how much they try to outsmart their fate - a cosmic joke.

Everything in your life is the best thing that ever happened to you (it’s that simple).

No, it isn’t.

So,
developing cancer from smoking
Having a child die
Losing a limb
Texting while driving, crashing your car and putting yourself in a coma for five years
Or, texting while driving, killing another human being because of that, being sued and losing everything you have in the world
Having the dog you’ve loved and cared for for many hears being hit by a car and dying because of your own stupidity
Losing your job because you have no good work ethic and still looking for another one three years later
Your house going up in flames and your family and yourself barely getting out alive - and you let your fire insurance lapse and you have absolutely no money in the bank

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The word which comes to me with your one liner is simpleton - not simple or simplicity.
I’m not calling you a simpleton.

Acceptance of reality. The shedding of your ideologies that force you to have a disconnected view of reality.

We’ve been conditioned in a way that warps our biology, i.e. the perspective of love. Biologically, love exists for a distinct purpose. Socially, we have perverted this purpose. Instead of accepting that love helps us procreate, we’ve been manipulated into seeing love as a path of happiness. This is so ingrained into our minds that we see it as vital to our ability to be happy/content/fulfilled… the irony is that happiness/contentment/fulfillment actually lies within us.

We use love as one way to validate our self-worth. When we’re rejected, it has the opposite affect, we feel less valuable as a being (like we’re lacking something). This is what you’re experiencing when you have your heart “broken”. If you accept yourself, as you currently exist, without thinking that you’re incomplete in some manner or lacking some core component… you would not be suffering these harmful emotions and/or doubts.

As for the regrets, it’s the same underlying issue, failure to accept reality as it is… rather than how you wish it to be. The time, the effort, the resources… all spent living life and experiencing it for what it is and what it isn’t. Your perspective is what makes these things a positive or negative experience.

Logic and aesthetics in combination does cure a broken heart.

Don’t ask me to go into detail, but if the two disciples mesh, the flaws will become seen as a deceptive and forlorn self punishment. It is that simple. However the appearent simplicity masks the years of not being able to reduce it as such.

Yes, if these things happened then all of these things are the best things that happened to you.

Only if you live a life in perfect denial and/or believe in a puppeteer God who you will love no matter what, without question.

There was a time when I felt that the concept of amor fati was a beautiful one…but perhaps I had not taken my thinking far enough…

I want to learn more and more to see as beautiful what is necessary in things; then I shall be one of those who makes things beautiful. Amor fati: let that be my love henceforth! I do not want to wage war against what is ugly. I do not want to accuse; I do not even want to accuse those who accuse. Looking away shall be my only negation. And all in all and on the whole: some day I wish to be only a Yes-sayer.

It is important to note that Nietzsche in this context refers to the “Yes-sayer”, not in a political or social sense, but as a person who is capable of uncompromising acceptance of reality per se.

My formula for greatness in a human being is amor fati: that one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backward, not in all eternity. Not merely bear what is necessary, still less conceal it—all idealism is mendacity in the face of what is necessary—but love it.

At some point in our lives, there might come a time when we would have to come to accept the above list thing[s] which I mentioned in order to save our sanity and live again but that doesn’t mean that we would “see” these things as the BEST things which happened or come to love them…even if some good eventually occurred; for instance, having another child. That’s taking it to far…at least for me.

Your attitude for me appears to be more than a bit fatalistic but I may be wrong.

Is that some sort of obesity fetish?

:laughing:
Only if it’s taken too far. :evilfun:

They are the best things that happened to us because there is no other things that happened to us (accept it or die miserable).

Thinking your way IS a slow kind of dying miserably.

There is a reason that a horse wears blinders but even a horse doesn’t wear them all of the time.
If you take yours off, you will be able to see a much more panoramic landscape to your life, to life in general.
It’s there.
Contrary to what you believe, we need to see also the good and the beautiful in order to thrive and to want to live.

I do in fact take a panoramic view to life and encompass ALL things as the best things in life whereas your argument is that this is not the case.

If all things have the same status, none of them can be best. In order to have “best”, you must also have something that is not as good. A thing has to be better than another thing in order for it to be best.

All things don’t have the same status but all the things that have happened in our life are the best things that have happened in our life.

And they are also the worst things that have happened in our lives.

If you want them to be they can be, but life may get pretty damn miserable if you hold this view.

Yes, you’re right. Perhaps a way round that would be to call the things you like the most, the best things, and only call the things you don’t like, the worst things.

And that is why all the things that have happened in life are the best things that have happened in life.

I went through it once and dont plan to let it happen again.
Then I laugh out loud as I write that.