You can’t walk in Jesus’ footsteps and be meek. The guy was judgmental - remember who he threw out of where and how hot he was then - confrontational, challenging, outspoken, dynamic, broke with tradition even if he said he was simply fulfilling it. I agree with your main point, however, that in general he was not using his sense of morality to show he was better than other people. And he did not seem to be someone who would be impressed by the form of correctness rather than what someone had in their hearts. But if he was God on earth, he had behind him THE LORD, and in this case we do have someone who tacitly accepts the persecution of sinners, for all time. IOW he could walk about and cure people of conditions - that arguably he had created himself in his God form - and preach kindness and non-judgmentalness, all the while, at the same time as THE LORD sitting in as harsh as possible judgment of people and sending many to Hell.
At no point we know of, for example, did he ever say - God was too harsh on Sodom and Gomorrah, let alone, for example, the enemies of the Jews. He reserved his ideas about casting stones for the moral majority - pun intended - down on earth.
And that is where those you want to chastize get their mixed messages…
should they be like Jesus (was sometimes) or should they be like THE LORD? Hence they suffer from multiple personality disorders with brutality and kindness, judgment and forgiveness all mixed up together.
But how could one be otherwise if one takes THE WHOLE BIBLE AS THE PERFECT WORD OF GOD?