Why would I believe that there exists people who do not consider love to mean selflessness? Giving is an expression of love and that is surely considered selfless whereas greed is selfish, even though giving is ultimately selfish, but not apparently selfish (readily seen as selfish).
Ultimately, you cannot love someone else because you cannot care about someone else unless caring about someone else benefits you, but then it’s not caring about them, but caring about YOU.
Use whatever synonym you want:
You cannot love someone else.
You cannot care about someone else.
You cannot regard someone else.
You cannot worship someone else.
So, you (the one who ironically hasn’t differentiated between your/you’re properly - innocent mistake no doubt, but ironic that it would occur in the context of appealing to yourself as an authority) don’t think the majority definition of love is selflessness. So what merit should I derive from that? Should I say to myself “Phyllo doesn’t agree, therefore I’m wrong.”? You’re appealing to yourself as authority.
And I’ve supplied my reasoning in abundance.
Because you’re making the claim that my claim is wrong, yet you refuse to substantiate your claim.
Where?
If so, then it’s not my fault.
Well, if we don’t have agreeable definitions then we have nothing.
It depends on the issue. The bible is a great source of wisdom but also a great source of confusion. Alan says the bible should be ceremoniously and reverently burned every Easter and I agree. We shouldn’t callously or irreverently burn books, but we should ceremoniously burn that book lest it become a graven image and object of worship.
Yes. I’m saying the bible is right in defining love, but wrong in that love can exist. What we call love, is not love; it’s just selfish ass-hattery, but that fact isn’t readily apparent, so we flatter ourselves for possessing this divine attribute that’s no less simian than any other of our attributes. Once again, arrogance rears it’s head in the conversation because we’ve deified this love concept in adoration of ourselves.