Women need to pretend that they do not know that every man wants to fuck them, and possibly also have a relationship with them. This is true primarily only of women above a certain threshold of beauty and attractiveness of personality, of course. A man will have his own equation of how physical beauty and personality beauty work together to produce where a woman is at on the scale of attractiveness, say from 0 to 10.
This sexual and relationship energy between men and women (again, of at least a certain level on the scale of attractiveness, as determined for other people by each person him or herself (women have such scales for men too, of course, but they are somewhat different)) is unlimited, and continuous. It is always there. Every man always wants to fuck every woman like this he comes across, and if the personality aspect is high enough in the overall attractiveness equation then he also wants a relationship with her. This is just basic psychology and basic biology. It was necessary for such chemistry to develop, because otherwise sexual species would not survive.
But at some point it became necessary to sublimate this chemistry, probably because we stopped raising children in communal groups or because the energy of this sexual chemistry being always present in every direction was redirected into other areas, socially and psychologically and probably economically too; this could correspond to when early pre-humans needed to start hunting prey for meat, for example, and therefore needed to spend a lot of time and energy (physical and psychological energy) learning how to hunt and actually hunting rather than fucking and playing relationship chemistry games all the time. Or it could correspond to new more central social roles for women, such as a development of further importance of monogamous relationships corresponding to the loss of communal child-rearing.
In any case, for whatever reason this happened, and the sexual/relationship chemistry needed to stop being unlimited. So it was buried in two ways, one within men and one within women. In women it is buried as her deliberate need to remain ignorant of the fact that every man wants to fuck her and possibly also have a relationship with her; she will almost always act surprised upon learning this is the case for some man she knows, like “oh I can’t believe he said that!” and she acts outwardly and, based on her responses I believe also to a large degree inwardly as well, as if this fact about men were simply not the case. Of course women do not want to fuck around all the time in the same way that men do, it is not in their biology because they have a totally different biological role than men do; they want to fuck around to the degree that the underlying sexual/relationship impulse and chemistry is indeed unlimited in both genders, which is the case, but they are much more selective and careful with it for various reasons, one being that the consequences of sexual and relationship activity are much higher for a woman and for a man, and also because women serves the evolutionary role of being the selector of what constitute positive traits for the species. Men select too, of course, but primarily it is women who do the selecting and narrowing down/excluding of potential partners, again and in part because of the far greater severity of consequences for her of sexual and relationship activity, and also because of the simply evolutionary logic of how a man can have dozens of babies at the same time, he can fuck dozens of women and get them all pregnant, while a woman can always only have one baby at a time.
So this deliberate need for ignorance about the true nature of men is serving a protective and productive function in terms of a woman’s biological role (and what became her social role too). This is also one nice thing about prostitutes and porn stars, that they have no such ignorance and know full well that every man wants to fuck them and possibly have a relationship with them as well. They are not in denial about this.
For men, the chemistry was buried as… what? It is harder to pinpoint, but I think it might have been buried as the impulse to philosophize. The need to know reality, to engage reality, to come to understand truths and to know how to act on these truths, and to build the courage and strength to act according to this knowledge. Men are intimately connected to their impulse to fuck and/or have relationships with every attractive woman he meets, he cannot deny this or remain ignorant of it beyond a clear point (unless he redirects all of this away from itself and into homosexuality, or totally cucks out into full soy boy mode or some other weird thing) but due to social developments he could no longer freely express this impulse, it had to be curtailed and delimited carefully. This occurred in monogamy, but the odds of a man finding just one woman who can totally fulfill his every sexual and relationship need is extremely low, therefore there is an excess; this excess needed to be redirected somewhere else, otherwise it would break up the pair-bond. I think this excess became the mind, properly understood; reason, thought, etc. and the ambition and drive to these.
Why did this excess not become instead a kind of lethargy, fantasy-power, chaotic destructiveness, mere hedonism, etc.? Well some of it is, we can see examples of that all around us in many men. But I think the primary drive of the conversion and use of the excess into something that would prove not destructive of the pair-bond had to be something constructive, for the simple reason that for any instances (for any men) where this was not the case those men simply tended not to survive nearly as well, thus undercutting their own type from the gene pool over time.