Appropriate sexual behavior

In light of all the sexual misconduct allegations in the news… several people have been chastised for inappropriate sexual behavior. Some of the allegations are as serious as rape, while others are less serious… groping, forced kiss, or even as minor as a verbal request to a woman to satisfy sexually.

This has me wondering, we have a plethora of examples of what inappropriate sexual behavior - but I am thinking to myself - is there even a such thing as “appropriate sexual behavior”? Meaning something that is safe to do, sexually, 100% of the time.

For the purpose of this thread I am being a bit hard-headed on purpose

A traditional christian view is “no sex until marriage” - this defines extramarital sex as inappropriate

In my ideal world of honest human communication, it would make sense that simply asking for sex would be a straightforward, honest approach. But even to ask for sex can be labeled inappropriate (at the very least, made fun of):

[youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2iv-cSXgIqw[/youtube]

Not to mention that from that from birth sex is introduced as inappropriate always (until age of consent is reached).
Not to mention that people (men and women alike) are commonly attracted to inappropriateness as it comes to sex. Interested in a bad boy? Mom wouldn’t approve. Interested in an attractive woman? Apparently you are now objectifying women and that too can be seen as inappropriate.
Oh you put out cause your partner bought you a nice gift? Whore.

I’m unmarried, so I am particularly interested in the opinions of married people, because only they are defined to be in a position to have sex appropriately.

Oh wait, peoples married sex lives are their private business. Sharing the details of ones own bedroom is definitely inappropriate.

So the people who can possibly have appropriate sex can’t share what is appropriate because to share what is appropriate is inappropriate.

Talking openly and honestly with your partner? I guess then I’m not showing the manly confidence so desired by women. If its not going to work its definitely inappropriate.

I ask in all seriousness - Is there a such thing as appropriate sexual behavior?

I really don’t think there is. And if there is, I doubt its wanted. Something to keep in mind when someone acts inappropriately sexually.

This question is too black-and-white. The same action will be viewed as appropriate or inappropriate based on who is doing it, to who, and in what context. And even with all the variables set, there will be substantial disagreement about what’s inappropriate and how inappropriate. Some people think certain sex acts are always inappropriate, even among married, consenting, heterosexual adults in the privacy of their own bedrooms. Others will think some pretty flagrant and public violations of other’s bodily autonomy are appropriate.

I propose that complex social rules about sex are a means of mate selection and fitness signaling. They can communicate tribal membership (by showing that you are playing by the same rules), individual social traits like wealth and class (by showing what rules you think apply to you, and what rules you feel empowered to break without consequence), and genetic traits like intelligence and neurotypicality (by showing how adeptly you can read and navigate the complexities).

That would explain e.g. why attractive people can get away with more, because their other fitness signals make up for the deficits communicated by their failure to adhere to social rules. It would also explain why women can get away with more, because their ability to have multiple mates at the same time means mate fitness is less important. (Though, caution that this looks a lot like another evopsych just-so story).

The intension is to inhibit the male, specifically the white male. Such allows for race control.

Originally yes, and to some effect it is still ongoing however radical feminism is finding its way into Central & South America, Africa, Japan, South Korea, and India. The establishment likes testing its western guinea pigs first before rolling out its social engineering onto the rest of the world.

Pretty soon the western women syndrome will become the norm worldwide. Nobody is safe.

I don’t consider the Witch of the West to be the top of the heap, but … yeah…

I don’t know what you mean here. Do your really mean “Intension”? Not intention?

And since either one seems to be something that happens in the mind of an individual, are you really suggesting that sexual moores are best explained by some significant proportion of society consciously having it out for white males? That seems unlikely on several levels, not least of which is that most people aren’t living their lives to maximize any particular effect on white males (I’d be shocked if even most white males think a whole lot about how their actions affect white males as a group).

Yeah, sorry … not paying attention to my intensions. :blush:

I am not “suggesting” it. I am confidently stating it as a certainty and fact. If you are not aware of it, you are asleep.

It doesn’t take “most people”. It takes understanding how to use Media and Hypnosis - basically the news, film, and advertising industry. Now are you going to claim in this age of hyper-intellectual analyzing of everything under the sun for sake of profit, those arenas haven’t been addressed and utilized (not to mention that such happens to be the prime core of a certain religion)? Give it a break.

I don’t follow what you’re trying to claim. When a guy goes to a bar and buys a girl a drink, that girl decides whether or not to sleep with him based on how that choice will affect white males? Is she doing this consciously (e.g. “I would sleep with him, but that would raise the status of white men”)? Or has she been programmed by the media to use some heuristic that has the same effect (e.g. “what would dad think?”, where making dad happy and hurting white men are isomorphic)?

Are you really That asleep??

People choose what they do based upon their previously accepted notions of hope vs threat in combination with their concurrent perceptions of hope and threat, PHT. By hypnotizing a populous with the general idea that, for empirical example, one race has a larger and thus more pleasurable penis, the actions of the populous will be biased with that notion. Of course, it is not merely the excessively advertised Blacks on Blonds hypnotic promotion (or Arabs on Germaids), but political and more specifically socialistic promotion are also literally hypnotized into the population before your very eyes. Medical influences are then used to enhance and bring physical reality to the perception (peyronie’s disease). The problem is simply that you are still asleep and thus not noticing - one of the preferred states for getting hypnotized (along with the hypnotized belief that you cannot be hypnotized without your permission).Such was the whole point in making the Media, the “Fourth Branch of the Government”.

It’s call “Mass Programming”. ref, ref, ref,… just picking a few off the top.

It has been deemed “appropriate behavior” for black men to be predators to white women, just as it has for Arab men to be predators of German women, just for examples.

What rock have you been living under?

Lovely theory, but not born out by facts. Racially assortative mating is still the rule.

What in the world? No one is claiming that that’s appropriate. If anything, that’s treated (e.g. by the criminal justice system) as less appropriate than white men being predators to white women.

Yeah and the Earth being spheroid is merely a theory too.
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Only in your hypnotised fantasies.

Answer this question:
How would you know if you were hypnotized into your beliefs?

Does one remember taking the blue pill?

I give up, how?

Yes. That’s right.
You give up.

And start being far more careful of who might be the good or bad guys and who might not be. Become seriously humble, not merely superficially so. And in that process, you learn of exactly how influence is really working, not merely the theory, but the practice, such as the old “product placement” advertising that went political into social engineering.

If you examine most Hollywood films from 1980-2010 (as well as news broadcasts and commercials), for social engineering “product placement” (such as always having a black man in view just over the shoulder of the star white woman in as many scenes as possible), you could easily become overwhelmed with the extreme of it. It is blatant, and supported by the concept of “Political Correctness”.

Stop attempting to be anything, PC or not. And start watching ACTUAL behaviors, results, and the influences that led to them. Stop being BIASED.

Who’s rule?

The global, liberal agenda is race mixing until there are no distinct races. Black man/white woman swirls are so popular on television, in movies to keep the progressive agenda progressing. Most racial swirls always involve a white woman which leaves white men out in the cold. Racial swirls with white women may hypnotize many white women towards birthing swirl babies, which significantly hinders the number of available white women for white men, now and in the future, as less and less children are white.

OK. Here are two hypotheses:

  1. White women prefer black men because of the size of their penises.
  2. White women do not in general prefer black men.

When I watch “actual behaviors”, like who people actually end up having sexual relationships with, I see that white women tend to partner much more frequently with white men than with black men. I conclude (2) is the better hypothesis.

Like that?

Different definition of “rule”.

The rise in bi-racial children has increased by 50% since 2000. That’s a huge jump. White women are tending to pair with white men less and less which is the reality you prefer to overlook.

What about the 20% of them who do, up from 5% in 2000?

That is a blatant false dichotomy.

How many actual sexual encounters have you been watching over the past 20 years? Notice any changing at all?

I have had the privileged of over-viewing a great deal of social and private behaviors. I have a list of Black men who could not get white women off their minds. One even expressed that he would go so far as to even join the Christian Church if they would set him up with a white woman (I imagine that any would do). Just watch any Sports channel.

But I an not going to debate THIS one with you Carleas. This isn’t Relativity. This is blatant social engineering right in front of your eyes (with the exception that you have already noticed that your news is being filtered).

This is one where you merely have to start looking for yourself. Debating it will not change your mind a bit. GO LOOK at the Media for real, not with your biases.

Carleas, you and most accept it all because you were first hypnotized into the notion that it is a good thing (those evil injustices of the past)and that it is necessary and good to do sneaky and bad things as long as you get good from it. Thus you overlook it quite willingly.

It’s called “being duped”.

Total interracial marriage went from ~9% to ~17% in that that time, so “increased by 50%” could certainly be true, but hides the fact that a 50% increase on small percentage of marriages is still a small percentage of marriages.

Here’s some data on that trend, noting that the rise of online dating plays a role, and pointing out that each interracial couple tends to create a community that fosters more interracial pairings, by bringing together racially diverse communities. The best-fit story seems to be that as people have the opportunity to meet and socialize with people of other races, more interracial coupling happens. No need for hypnosis etc. to explain it.

Unless you’ve been hypnotized, in which case you need to give up, start being more careful, etc.

Couplings that produce offspring have little to do with marriage in this day and age, so no one but you is talking about marriage. Black/white swirls who reproduce don’t tend to marry…multiple babies from multiple daddies is a newer trend.