I wonder about fear vs intention towards fear
A man can be imposing, lets say a man is a big man - how about 6'6". He towers over other humans - he doesn't intend to impose fear on others, yet, others feel it due to their shorter stature
A man spends time bodybuilding/weightlifting/exercising - is he intending to impose fear on others? Maybe he just wants to be in shape and healthy. Maybe he wants to get buff to get the ladies. Maybe he is just being a man... or some mix of these. This healthy and/or physically impressive shape imposes fear upon other men, women, children. Perhaps he is intending to impose fear by being stronger than others. Perhaps he is afraid himself, but submitting to the apparent need to work out (afraid of being scrawny).
A woman gets ready for her day by putting on some makeup. Maybe nothing fancy, perhaps just the basics. Maybe she goes all out, lipstick, eyeliner, fake eyelashes, foundation, blush, eye shadow etc... How does fear fit in here? Is she afraid of being ugly and choosing to put on makeup? Or perhaps she is going out for a night on the town and wants to look good - to spend some time objectifying the self - well done makeup, this imposition of beauty... wearing fear on your face. Where does wearing (being afraid) cross the line into (wearing an imposition of fear?) - seems to me to be a subtle art where more makeup can mean more fear that is felt by said woman, or perhaps putting on just enough makeup to make the man not notice, but feel - is this an imposition of fear? I must confess a woman of striking beauty will trigger to me "she is out of my league, not worth my effort".
People feel fear. I look both ways before I cross the street. Perhaps your kid needs to have his hand held to prevent him crossing the street. Is this your fear? Are you intending to impose fear? Does one only intend to impose fears that they realize themselves? I don't want to get hit by a car, and "I don't want my kid to get hit by a car" seems pretty normal to me. What if you want a better life for your kids than you had for yourself? Do you say "even though I didn't grow up this way, I'm going to impose fear to my children because I want better for them"? Is this hypocrisy an example of fear?
I would like to say the line is cut and dry... but I think often, one's fears very.. VERY quickly become an imposition of fear onto another.
I think that recognizing the feeling of fear is often difficult, and cutting oneself off before imposing the fear on another, and/or perhaps, willingly choosing to repeat this fear... it's a difficult question.
In an ideal world, I would like to say that I never intend to impose fear on others. Realistically, something stupid like my boss gave me a task at work that I don't know how to complete, quickly results in me asking questions to peers in effort to complete the task. It's a realized fear that I indirectly impose on others.
When does fear become an imposition of fear? I wish this weren't such a grey area sometimes