Would you date someone with a disability?

Maia · December 31, 2012, 5:26pm

Only_Humean:

Maia:

Only_Humean:

Pretty much what other people have said. Blind or deaf would be OK - I guess a lot of getting used to, but not something that would put me off at all if there were a good click. When I was a student I knew a deaf girl who was just adorable. Sigh… Something behavioural like autism would be much less likely. I can’t really imagine a click there.

I once met a girl who was very sharp, very funny and quite pretty, who had cerebral palsy. That was quite confrontational for me, because had she not had it she’d probably have been my type. But the main problem I’d have had with it at the time was feeling embarrassed/uncomfortable about it as regards other people, and I didn’t like that about myself.

Edit: I should for the sake of full disclosure reveal that she did not have massive jubblies.

Being concerned about what others might think is one I’ve heard before, more than once.

It would bother me a lot less now, of course. And something like deafness, blindness or a missing limb would not bother me at all.

I know quite a few blind people who would refuse to date another blind person. It’s not just the practicalities involved, but the insularity within the blind community that they want to escape from.

Atthet · December 31, 2012, 7:08pm

I would date a blind girl if she was hot and very knowledgeable of philosophy. I would date a deaf girl if she was hot and liked to read and write a lot of philosophy.

I would not date a hot girl with a missing limb, unless she lost a limb after we already started dating. I would not ask a hot girl with a missing limb out for a first time.

emptiness · January 1, 2013, 12:02am

Obviously you have never worked with the elderly… they would make you blush

The_Golden_Turd · January 1, 2013, 11:23pm

Atthet, have you heard of porn?

Edited on 04-01-13 to remove link to porn site - Magsj

Leave the poor blind girl alone, and please remove the naked pictures of you your using as your avatar… not only can she not see them, but it’s not even that big or impressive, anyone can cut their pubes back and look that avegage. Looks kinda sick actually… like a little hiarless kitten that is tattooed.

Atthet · January 1, 2013, 11:41pm

I’m sorry, ONASANDER. I will remove my avatar picture of my big ding dong. I was hoping that Maia would be impressed by it, when I first responded to this thread. But now I know it’s wasted on her, darn. Too bad I can’t make a sound to show how big it its.

I hope nobody takes this joke the wrong way, lol! Besides, Maia won’t care.

emptiness · January 2, 2013, 7:34am

Is… Is that tattooed cat for real?

People never cease to amaze me…

Saintest · July 30, 2016, 3:33pm

If she were really cute and interesting person, i see no problem)

Uccisore · August 8, 2016, 10:48pm

When ‘disabled’ can mean anything from ‘mostly deaf’ to ‘mentally retarded’, I don’t really get the point of the question.

Maia · August 8, 2016, 11:19pm

Oh wow, what an embarrassing old thread. I’m not nearly so hung up about this sort of issue as I was then, by the way.

The_Golden_Turd · August 9, 2016, 12:28am

Your a woman, your gonna be hung up on this, always.

I do like the “yes, everytime” option in the poll.

Tab · August 9, 2016, 11:33am

Lol, I was wondering who necro’d this thread.

The_Golden_Turd · August 9, 2016, 4:44pm

Weird, that person only has one post.

Watch that second post be on valentines day… sending a image of a heart to her. “Dammit, I can’t see, what is it”.

Maia · August 9, 2016, 5:13pm

Who are the 6 people who voted for it, I wonder?

MagsJ · August 9, 2016, 5:24pm

My late (beautiful) son lost his sight aged two due to neuroblastoma, and I fretted daily about his well-being, but he was never short of admirers or attention, so I was fretting for nothing.

Oh how shallow we humans are when a person is beautiful/good-looking and have all their limbs, so I would say (from experience) that Maia has nothing to worry about and everything to look forward to.

Maia · August 9, 2016, 5:27pm

I’m very sorry to hear about your late son, Mags, and am very glad that he had a beautiful life.

MagsJ · August 9, 2016, 5:45pm

Thanks

I never found his blindness to be a disability… as much as a minor hinderence so I hope you feel the same about yourself? how can lack of sight, hearing, or speech detract from a beautiful being? it cannot.

Do your family vet your admirers?

Maia · August 9, 2016, 5:58pm

I never think of myself as being disabled or defective, but I always have to try and think of those who lose something, like sight, such as the elderly people I work with, because that is a very different situation. I can’t imagine what that must be like.

And yes, my brother certainly tries to vet my “admirers” if I let him!

MagsJ · August 9, 2016, 6:07pm

I’ll reply later tonight… as I’ve got a late-evening meeting to attend in a pub down the road.

Yes… I don’t see a lack of sight as a disability, but more as an inconvenience, and you are an inspiration to all…

Maia · August 9, 2016, 6:09pm

Thank you! Have fun down the pub, I have to go out myself soon anyway to work, since it’s gone 7pm.

Amorphos · August 9, 2016, 8:31pm

People don’t have disability, their bodies do. You could e.g. give a disabled body an exoskeleton and then the person is no longer disabled. On a deeper level, people are always whole and complete, you don’t get part-person or only a half of someone because they have mental disability. there are no ‘disabled people’, just people with bodies which are.

I think if we are honest we are attracted to peoples looks, even though that tells us nothing at all about them. If you get to know someone though, then mostly the looks are as superficial as they are.