Anger exists naturally just under my skin, probably the quickest emotion I have access to. I didn’t know why till I was able to trace the seat of my personality type in the brain, the indirect route of the basal ganglia, then it made more sense.
It can be remarkably healthy at times to suppress your anger, it can preserve your life and limb in many situations, or a job, or a relationship. That’s what we do at a fundamental level, in terms of brain functions you and I, we suppress and maintain control. Anger in this relation makes a lot of sense, it allows us to choose or not to proceed on impulse. All too often when you find in history a coup takes place in a highly corrupt state, it is by a close and trusted acquaintance, the very one they thought beyond all doubt they can trust. They repressed their hatred and disgust, carried on, cut their throat at the opportune moment. Merely going with the flow of emotions might not matter if your in a simple profession, but our people tend to have a knack of making themselves indispensable to society over the years. I wouldn’t advocate a free flowing of emotions for such a person. You gotta be careful in a nest of vipers.
Now, in Stoicism, you can take a variety of approaches to anger. The simple approaches is self analysis, why are you angry, and is it even wise or necessary to your well being in the long run? By keeping a steady, pattered living, over time you adjust to your lifestyle, and find simple things, hardest to lose even in poverty or tragedy, satisfying. Contentment in general is preferable to anger.
You can also do simple counting exercises whenever anger strikes. As we age, the impulse to anger diminishes. I recommend paying close attention to your anger, even if you gotta wisely suppress it, study it closely and don’t alienate yourself from it. It is a fundamental aspect of you. You can be angry without bring cruel, or prone to shortsighted, impulsive actions. The lord gave you two loafs of brain, a left and a right, you can handle at least two different train of thoughts at a time. Just because anger might be a natural reaction by no means mean your limited to whatever clever, or not so clever ideas are conjured up by that thought process. There us a dialectic involved in all things.