This is one of your big traumas, Trixie, isn’t it? Searching for love you met more or less miserable people, maybe find some love, maybe imagined it. And tried to help them - but you can’t help people just like that. If it were so easy, the world would be totally different.
Do you believe that they abandoned you because of you? They didn’t, stressed by their own problems they thought mostly of themselves. Even though you would have catalyzed something, you were not the cause of it.
I think Trixie that you should change your viewpoint. Not to think them as objects of your love but real people with their own life, thrown by their own problems. Use your empathy, they were no robots.
Who is robot in this case? Rhetorical question, it’s very human to hide behind technical (“scientific”) details. Show me an ILP thread where it doesn’t happen.
Think about it like this. Why would a robot care about anyone’s feelings? Of course they would abandon me because they could care less about my feelings. Robots have no need or value of friendship, at least not yet.