“what is morality?”
However you choose to answer this question will determine what you will say about absolute vs relative morals.
Personally i think morals are a type of argument/decision/realization/tactic.
I see morals firstly existing as thoughts. The morality we observe among humans exists as tendencies, convictions, and sometimes enforced laws. Let’s say as a child some bully comes by and punches me in the face, making me cry, and steals my toy. Afterward i am likely to feel negative toward the bully, and most definitely negative toward the bully’s actions. In my mind i am liable to label those bullies actions as bad. It can be said that some people do not want to be “bad”, they do not want to be like those who they dislike, and moreover they want to feel good and be happy. If as a child i make a conscious decision that it’s better to behave in a good way as opposed to the bad ways of the bully, i will have embarked on the construction of my moral system.
Morals are typically concerned directly with determining how we should live. People take varying criteria and come up with varying reasons do live in certain ways.
Some people reason that sex is a bad thing because it can wind up in pregnancy and the spread of disease, and rape, and can actually become an addiction, and they take this criteria and make a decision, like the child concerning his good vs bad actions, to be strict about sex. the actual rules may vary depending on social structure, but you get the idea.
Somebody else however, who has not had a negative experience with sex, or believes that negative experiences are a minority might not conclude that sex is so dangerous. As a result this person is likely to not develop any kind of strict self-discipline regarding sex.
You can see this as a lack of awareness, but some people can perceive sex as a good thing, and therefore place it in the realm of “o.k”. To someone who sees sex as negative, it would be acting immoral. To someone who sees sex as positive, restricting it would seem like saying using the bathroom is “bad”, doing gymnastics is “bad”, or climbing trees is “bad”.
The state of the world exists with very relative morals. such an observation is undeniable. When you try to explain to someone why something is right or wrong, you look for reasons, contextual or otherwise, and you use these reasons to build an argument about how this person and yourself should act. A problem occurs when you try to apply your conclusions to someone who does not see the same reasons as you, or who has differing reasons, ones which you do not have.
Imagine the choices in life as a series of doors, and morality is a tactic used to determine which doors we should take. Morality is the judgments we make about each door.
There may be a “best door”, but it might not always be possible to determine from our limited perspective which door is the best. Some doors can be deceptive and others frightening. Morality is in essence us choosing which door we will go through, whether it’s the best or not depends on the nature and comprehension of our arguments. Some people choose the doors they are most comfortable or familiar with. Some people choose whatever door they think has the best possible outcome, some people choose whatever door they think has the least worst outcome, some people choose the doors which have the best chance of having an acceptable outcome, some people choose doors based on a set of guidelines they have found in book, some use sets of guidelines defined by mystics. ETC…
The choices and doors that have been taken in this world are universally diverse and contradictory to the point that sharing reasons is a distant luxury. What are we to conclude about claims of an ultimate tactic for choosing actions?
If morality is about choosing the best doors, is there one absolutely best door?
For an individual, i think there must be one perfect door, but i don’t claim to know it.
What leads me to relativism is this, Do you think that the perfect door for one person will be the perfect door for another person, or everyone else?
I do not think so. I think our perfect doors would have to be tailor and custom made.
Nobody has the same set of doors anyway…